Prioritize Your Relationships

When is the last time you took inventory on your emotional health through reflecting on your personal and interpersonal relationships?  The sum of you is based upon who is around you, personally, professionally, energetically and vibrationally.  Ever notice how you get around certain people and you feel elevated, safe, joyful and excited but then also the ladder…they say a persons energy introduces them before they even speak.  Someone who is healthy on the inside is going to vibrate a lot higher than someone who for example, abuses substances or lives in the past.  The key to aligning the very best in life for YOU is to surround yourself with healthy people.  Prioritize the people in your life who build you up.  No one wants to be around someone who’s got a negative comment for every situation or a problem for every situation.  No one wants to be around someone who is always talking about themself either, relationships are give and take and if you’re feeling depleted after being around someone in your life, that’s a problem…blood suckers are called blood suckers for a reason.  Prioritize your mental and emotional health and make a point to be around and share your life with people that inspire you, people of all ages (older and younger than yourself because they all are going to teach you different lessons and offer valuable differentiating perspectives on LIFE.  Try spending time with people of different cultures and backgrounds too, it’s freeing, character building and eye opening to learn, share and trade journeys with each other as human beings.  

I met a wonderful woman on the plane traveling to Honolulu to pick up my husbands father to bring him home for the summer.  She was bright and cheery and had a beautiful thick German accent although she kept apologizing for her English even though it was on point. She was excitable, refreshing and friendly. She shared with me that she had been traveling for several weeks what would turn into several months traveling around the world BY HERSELF at 68 years old because her husband doesn’t share her love of wonder and travel but he supported her craving and encouraged her to fill her cup and dream by taking this trip.  She explained how carefully curated her trip was and by the end, I was like, “okay where do I sign up?!”  This woman is adorable, fun and I’d love to travel with her-she was so full of life and smart.  It was empowering for me to think about her taking this trek.  She went from Germany to Iceland then was on a ship for a week in Iceland then somehow ended up in Indianapolis at a friends house she met along the way “in a beautiful small village” then was on my plane from Detroit going to Maui for a week where she then will travel on to French Polynesia spending 1 week on stilts in the clear turquoise water and 1 week on a sail boat exploring the coastlines and sea…then meeting her granddaughter for 3 weeks to explore further. She got me thinking about my relationships in my yoga community (my life work and passion) at California Yoga and how the best part of my mornings are when certain people walk through that door, not because they are my yoga students/clients but because I truly light up inside when they walk in, I love hearing their stories about their life experiences and even just their weekends.  I like hearing about their children and how they parent and their marriages and sometimes even divorces and losses and how they rose from the ashes in this situation or that one.  Some of my favorite women aren’t my age at all or even close to my age but I feel exhilarated and safe and loved when around them.  I like hearing about their weekends, their travel, their relationships and even their obstacles…they inspire me every single day.  They give me meaning, purpose and love.

Though I don’t “socialize” too much with them outside of the yoga studio/my place of work, because my time is limited with three growing vibrant testosterone packed tweens, they are an integral part of who I am and contribute directly to my joy level and fulfillment on a daily basis.  

I started to reflect on how grateful I am at this stage in my life and took inventory of how the caliber and quality of my relationships have improved over the years and over growing as a woman, mother and entrepreneur.  While my family is at the top of my list, my totem pole of childhood life long friends, precious mom friends through my kids and through OH, my yoga community at California Yoga, and friends Ive collected all over the world through my love of travel, had me feeling super grateful and a little choked up.  

Take a moment to look at your circle… If it’s uplifting and inspiring, carve more time for those humans…if it’s draining or you’re unsure about a few, pull the weeds. 

It’s never too late to make new friends.  

Soulmates aren’t just in intimate relationships and there are many soulmates you may have not met just yet.